I’ve been thinking about this for some time actually, but I never made a journal about it. Now I’d like your thoughts on the matter.
To me, it seems that, since communication methods have become far easier, people have become judgemental. What do I mean by that? Let’s take the example of the Internet. How easier it is, nowadays, to give your opinion on a subject and have other people respond to you. It’s fast, it’s easy, but most of all, you can act the way you want because nobody knows who you are behind the computer screen. I can come up to you and call you a fucking whore and that I wish your mother gets AIDS, probably hurting you in the process, but why should I care? I don’t know you - I’ll never SEE your expression. You’ll respond, but do I need to care about your caps and misspelling because you’re so hurt by my comment that you can’t think properly? Not really.
A couple of months ago, a headline made international news: a woman who was in a subway in Europe (I think) accidently let her baby's carriage slip. The carriage fell on the tracks and was hit by the upcoming train. Luckily, the carriage saved the baby and the baby only came out with minor injuries such as bruises. In the video, you clearly see the distraught mother trying to catch the carriage, and then go in complete shock, with her hand sticking out when the train hit the carriage. It was a very heart wrenching video. Now it COULD be just me, but 20 years ago, if that headline had made the news, I know a lot of people who would have said “Thank god the baby was okay!” and “that poor mother! I wouldn’t have wanted to be in her place!”
But this isn’t 1990. This is 2010. Websites also spoke of the incident, but what you read in the responses weren’t compassion for the poor mother, or relief that the baby was okay. Instead, I read this disgusting mish-mash of hateful comments toward the mother. How bad of a mother she clearly was; how she left the carriage unattended; how she should not be allowed to keep the baby, etc… None of these people ever stopped to think that this was nothing but an accident. Accidents happen everyday and while they CAN be prevented, accidents are usually just that: accidents. They happen spontaneously, sometimes no matter how careful you are. Nobody stopped to think that maybe she HAD put the safety breaks on the carriage, but they failed. Nobody stopped to think that she couldn’t have guessed that looking for her ticket in her purse for three seconds could result in such a disaster. It’s not like she was a couple of inches from the track. But people on the internet, those people generally commenting on the incident, immediately pointed the finger at that awful mother without second thought. Why? Perhaps it made THEM feel better about themselves. It made them feel better to say “I’d NEVER be that careless!” But maybe, two, three, four days, weeks, months before, SHE saw a headline where some kid fell off a balcony because he had been left unattended. Perhaps SHE went on the internet and raged at how bad a mother that child’s mother had been with no further information on the incident, and how she’s NEVER be this careless herself. Well, oops?
See my point?
People have become so judgemental; putting everyone down to make themselves feel better. While it’s a habit that has been going on since the beginning of mankind, it’s far worst nowadays because it’s so easy to hide behind a computer screen to insult and put down others. Nobody really knows who you are after all. My name isn’t really Maria – some of you know that. Your name is probably not Momobear3567 either. It’s too easy to hurt others and then just wash your hands from any guilt because you’ll never see that person on the other side of the screen look hurt or cry.
I’m just curious to see your point on this.
P.S. I didn't really follow the train story that much further after. Maybe she WAS accused of negligence, but know that I only used that example to prove my point.